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Overwhelmed with residency and baby! 2 weeks 1 day ago #96739

  • Kate
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I am a PGY-3 with a 1 year old DD and DH is finishing up residency across the country so I am living with my family. I am feeling very overwhelmed between my work responsibilities and childcare. I am beginning to get nervous about boards prep next year as I find little to no time to study. I have had input from my PD that I am not keeping up with the other residents in terms of reading and in-service scores (I'm in a specialty that requires a lot of reading/memorization) . I am also having a lot of tension with my parents regarding the childcare during the day as they are very overwhelmed. I have frequently suggested hiring additional childcare help for my mom but she was offended and refused. We also don't have the financial resources for a drastic change like finding my own place and hiring full time childcare so I've been trying to make the current arrangement work. My work hours are usually around 7am-7pm (but with a 45min to 1 hr commute each way) and occasional weekends. DH has been able to come visit around 2 weekends a month to help but he is a surgery resident and doesn't have much time off either. My only time to try to get anything done is for around an hour each night after DD goes to sleep. Does anyone have any other suggestions of how to improve the current situation?
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Overwhelmed with residency and baby! 2 weeks 1 day ago #96740

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That does sound very difficult. It sounds like you need to carve out some more time for studying somehow. Can you do it during your commute? Can you set aside time on the weekends and have someone else (your mom, your visiting husband) spend that time with your daughter? Can you delegate any other responsibilities you have in the evening (hopefully they don't expect you to cook and clean or do other things with your limited time)? After your husband comes back (he is coming back after finishing residency, right?), make sure he gets involved in your daughter's bedtime routine so that you can have some more time for studying.

If you can come up with a consistent schedule for studying, that will help you out with board prep as well. Good luck!
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Overwhelmed with residency and baby! 1 week 5 days ago #96746

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I would look for part-time combos to help offset the high demands on your parents. There are part-time daycare and part-time nanny options out there (I have used combinations of both). I have found it worth the extra money for sanity! I particularly like having at least a part time daycare option, as I can send the kiddos to school half-day and get a TON done in a short time. Totally understand the financial constraints, though. Kids are darn expensive!
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Overwhelmed with residency and baby! 6 days 7 hours ago #96753

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i hear you, child care is super expensive! we are in a similar situation and actually will not have family around to help so are going to take a loan to hire full time child care, my husband and I are both in training..
in terms of studying have you looked into audio lectures? I downloaded them to my phone and found them very useful to listen to during my commute...
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