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32 Year old Mom of 2 Boys
"I am 32, with 6 and almost 4 year old boys. My husband is a currency trader,
but at one time seriously considered doing the med school thing with me (actually
took 2 years off and did premed work!), so he knows what we are in for, and
also won't feel like I'm getting a special opportunity that he couldn't have.
I got a master's in public health, and I stayed at home with my kids for 3 years
before starting to work in health services research. I worked full time, took
premed classes (the only one I had from college was bio-and things have changed
since then!), and took the MCATs last spring. My undergrad grades were acceptable,
not overwhelming, and my MCATS were decent. I did pretty well in the premed
class work, but in second semester orgo I was really overwhelmed (I came back
from presenting a paper in CA 48 hours before my final exam!), and ended up
with a B-, which not one of my interviewers commented on, although I think I
brought it up myself once. I made a conscious decision that Orgo would have
to come after work and the MCATs, and it was OK. I was accepted to the University
of Rochester, and will start here in August." KW, 32, mother of 2
30 Year old Mom of Two Girls, taking MCATs
"I am a 30 year old, married with 3 and 9 mo old girls. My husband is a
computer programmer with his own home-based business and we have been together
for 10 and married for 5 come April. He is totally supportive and has agreed
to finance it (I want it in writing though), but really doesn't know what he
has committed to (he asked me last night why I needed to take Organ Chem for
credit...I almost laughed myself to tears)as far as the hours away from home
and studying. But I know that he is gearing up by the detailed questions he
pops out every once in awhile. I am a stay-at-home Mom for now although the
girls and I are never home, but plan to return to work in the Fall until med
school begins. Originated in the Caribbean, stopped in Toronto, Canada for awhile,
and now settled in Georgia. B.S. in Anatomy & Physiology ('93), M.S. in
Physical Therapy ('94.) Have a strong GPA (looking back at my grades makes me
look like a brain, but I really didn't feel like I was smart...still don't)
but lacking Organic Chemistry. Planning to take the MCAT in April '01 and begin
med school in 2002. I haven't shared my plans with too many people for fear
of their negative comments sending me into a tailspin of self doubt. I am so
excited and anxious about realizing this goal that I want to keep focused. "
N, 30, mother of 2
In the Closet Pre-Med!
"I tell my husband I'm an in the closet pre-med, because I've only told
a couple of people about my desire to be a physician. I don't think I can handle
many negative comments right now. Until recently I had planned on a PA program,
but I really felt like I was settling. I do feel a bit intimidated by all of
you and inspired at the same time. I'm 31 yrs old, married, and have a 4yr old
and a 9 mth old. I have no college degrees, I'm starting from ground ZERO. I
have quite a bit of back office experience as a medical asst. and phlebotomist,
but in terms of education it is over whelming at times. I just try to think
of it one semester at a time. I'm taking classes at a CC right now and then
I plan to transfer to a state university for pre-req's etc." VM, 31, mother
of 2
35 Year Old Mom of Four
"I am a "closet pre-med". I started at a CC when I was 32 ( I'm
35 now) and have been biding my time until my youngest son is in school (next
year). We don't want to do the daycare thing so I decided to take things a little
slower at first so I can meet his needs. I have four sons (13, 11, 8 and 5)
and I wondered if any of you have more than two children. I have heard of a
mom with four kids at forty getting into med-school in Canada but have yet to
make contact with such a person." A, 35, mother of 4
Story of Medical School Journey
"I would be happy to tell y'all something about my story, because I look
at it and think, "Damn--if I can live the life I've lived and get into
medical school, then anyone with determination can." I graduated from high
school in 1978, and went with a backpack to live on a farm in Hawaii with a
bunch of other young people. I knew I wanted to be a doctor someday, but I just
wasn't ready right after high school to sign up for the rest of my life yet--I
decided I had some living to do first. I ended up marrying and having 3 children
almost immediately. I did go to college, took classes at the Univ. of
,
got my BA from
(an "alternative education" type university--lots
of independent study, credit for life experiences, etc). I moved to Texas, got
divorced, had to put any further education on hold while I supported my children.
I ended up learning medical transcription on the job and did that for ten years.
Eventually ended up working in the Pathology Depart. at major hospitals here
in Austin. It was working in the Path Dept. that I realized I HAD to go back
to school--I saw an autopsy that brought lumps to my throat because it was so
inspiring. That and a very good friend of mine dying at the age of 38 made me
realize that it was now or never. I got all my premed classes at the community
college here. I did well. I am a little shy about posting the dreaded "stats"
'cause it seems a little obnoxious . . . but I will because maybe it will help
someone. I took the Princeton Review last spring to help study for the MCAT.
However, probably didn't take it as seriously as I should have because, ahem,
(little embarrassing) I fell in love with someone at the same time. Total undergrad
GPA--3.79, science and math GPA--4.0; MCAT--32 total, 13 Verbal, 9 (biology
and organic), 10 (physics and chem), an S on the essays. I think my numbers
helped, but I also think my recommendation letters and my medical experiences
helped immensely. I am one of those students who really loves school, almost
always makes personal contact with the professors, and asks lots of questions.
Yes, exactly the kind of student that everyone probably hates--oh well--I don't
do it to be obnoxious, but just because I think chemistry and biology are really
very cool subjects and I am very inquisitive. One of the good things about this
is that it helped me to develop mentors who then wrote great recommendation
letters. I got to read some of my letters, and my professors really went all
out--it blew me away, and I am very grateful to them. Also I got a recommendation
from the chief of staff at
Hospital here--because he is also the Pathology
Dept chief and I used to work for him. Also last spring, I got a mole removed
by a plastic surgeon and I worked up the courage to ask if I could observe him
at surgery (he has an operating room suite in his office). To my surprise, he
said, "Yes." That summer I asked if he had any research he was doing,
and he also said yes--because of my somewhat minimal help on the papers, I am
2nd and 1st author on two papers being published. I also asked if I could train
as a surgical tech, and he said yes, again. I also know a family practice doc
who let me shadow her for a week last summer. Both of these mentors wrote recommendation
letters. In addition, I volunteered at the ER a little, and went out on EMS
ride-alongs (very fun). There are tons of clinical experiences out there for
the asking; it was very difficult for me to ask, but it sure was worth it. I
also spent 6 (!!!!) weeks writing my admissions essays, got at ton of second
opinions." W
Doctoral Student on Bed Rest
" I am 26 years old and presently on complete bed rest with a very high
risk pregnancy (6.5 months). I am also on a leave of absence from a doctoral
program in Computer Science (supposedly until next Fall). As if grad school
and pregnancy were not enough, I have been working on an internship since March
(part-time from home since I went on bed rest July 12th). Thank goodness for
my very supportive husband (who's also pursuing an MBA while working full time).
Well, I had always wanted to be a doctor since childhood. I volunteered at a
nursing home throughout high school and participated in several summer programs
for high school students contemplating pre-med; however, I was strongly urged
by my parents to pursue engineering. I did what they told me to do (reluctantly),
and now, ten years later, I have finally decided to pursue my personal interests
and apply to med school. Later this week, I am meeting with several admissions
directors in the Atlanta area to hopefully get some advice about preparing for
med school. I have also bought books and (obviously) searched the web looking
for advice, etc. from other non-traditional med students." VS, 26, mother
of one
Just Started Algebra
"I am a 28 year old mother of two; just beginning the "premed"
process with an Algebra class at a Univ.
campus. My husband is in graduate
school at the moment; so time together as a family is difficult to achieve.
I am seeking the support and advice of those in a similar situation." JH,
28, mother of 2
Doctors Wife Wanting To Become a Doctor
"I'm the wife of a family practitioner and am interested in a career in
medicine. I'm meeting with the admissions advisor this Wednesday to discuss
my class load next semester in a pre med program. I need the support and encouragement
of other women who are pursuing their dreams and juggling family and school
or career." JA, 37, mother of 2
Am I Losing My Mind Wanting To Become a Doctor? Mom
of 5
"Hi - I just joined last night; mainly to convince myself that I wasn't
losing my mind for finally wanting to pursue something I used to think was a
passing fancy. The pull of medicine has been with me since I was about 23. But
due to many things - including having children at a young age - I always dismissed
it as an unreachable, impracticable dream. Finding myself in the midst of the
enlightened and self-confident late thirties. I am beginning to believe that
I just might be able to do this!! I am currently a SAHM to five girls (yes,
five!!!) aged 18, 15, 12, 3 and 22 months. I have undergrad degrees in History
and Political Science and some grad work in Health Services Management. I worked
in ambulatory care management and non profit health related fields until the
year prior to my pregnancy with
. In many ways I am terrified of returning
to undergrad to complete pre-med requirements. Survey Chem and Biology were
easy "A's" for me; I truly enjoy science. It's the physics and math
that terrify me!!! I sometimes wonder if I don't have a learning disability
when it comes to algebra and calculus! But I have always had a good understanding
of medicine and a great memory. I had many physicians and nurse practitioners
I worked with ask me why I didn't go to med school. I even took a practice Family
Medicine board with one of the residents and passed, believe it or not - but
yet I am terrified and somewhat intimidated that I do not have what it takes
to actually get into med school and go through med school. I have a very supportive
husband and a real desire to "do this." TG, mother of five
Single Mom
"I am a single mother of a 3 year old (I'm 23). I am a Junior at University
of
. - Bio major pre-med., though I am now seriously considering nursing
until my daughter is older. I recently went down to the University
. to
meet with an admissions counselor. I work 40 hrs a week in addition to taking
12-18 hrs a semester and raising my daughter. I feel that this should be considered
when reviewing my transcript - otherwise I can't imagine what an interviewer
would think of my almost non-existent extra-curricular activities and a work
schedule that would be inappropriate for someone just putting themselves through
school. But I had heard that medical schools really frown on female students
have young children, and particularly if they are the sole support of said children."
MF, 23, mother of one
Mom of Teenagers with 4.0 GPA
"I have wanted to be an MD since I was 16 or 17 years old. My children
are now 16 and 19, and along with my husband, are very supportive of my desire
to become a doctor. I am now 40 years old, and figure it would take me about
3 semesters to finish the pre-med work. I have a BS in elementary education
with a minor in math, and a MS in Diagnostic and Remedial Reading. I am a very
strong student. My GPA for my BS was 3.9, and I had a 4.0 for my graduate work,
which was done while my children were very young and I was teaching full-time.
I believe I have the motivation and drive necessary to complete a medical degree,
and know that my life's experiences would be very beneficial. I would appreciate
any advice you could share. I would also love to hear from anyone who was a
"non-traditional" student, most notably anyone who went to med school
as an older student." LJ, 40, mother of 2
Divorced R.N. Mom of Two
"I am an R.N. with a B.S. in biology and a minor in chemistry. I own a
clinical drug research company and my children are 8 and 10. I am single and
I applied for med school during my divorce 5 years ago. It was the wrong time.
I am passionate about not giving up my dreams and I believe I can do this. I
need constructive support and an occasional cheer to put this dream on full
steam ahead. Age does not deter me in any way. I am extremely energetic and
I got my BS. with 4 hours of sleep for 2 years and had a baby during that time.
I know I can do this. I am looking for advice on where to start to take the
MCAT in April of 2000 and so forth." MB, 39, mother of 2
36 Year Old to Pursue dual MD/JD degree
"I recently divorced after being a housewife. I had given up my career
goals for a marriage. I am going to pursue a dual degree MD/JD (at my age) believe
it or not! Theirs is absolutely nothing that will stop me or make me lose focus.
I am determined and excited. I plan on having my private practice one day."
AS, 36, mother of one
37 Occupational Therapist Mom of Six-Year Old
"I am Bio-pre-med with a six year old, and I am willing to move us wherever
I am accepted. Feeling hopeless with the chemistry courses, it lowers my gpa
every time I take and or fail one. Any advice and info. would help me"
AS, 25, mother of one "I am a mother to two young children, ages 7 and
5. I also work part-time (3 d./wk.) as an occupational therapist. I originally
took the MCATs this past April and plan on retaking them April 2000. My organic
chemistry professor had a similar comment. She had asked why I was taking her
class as a working, 37 year old. I told her my story. I also told her that there
are many people who say "you'll be in medical school and residency for
7 or 8 years. You'll be 45 when you get out." My professor's comment was
"You'll be 45 in 8 years whether or not you go to medical school."
I have found that people often give their thoughts and advice in relation to
how they would feel undertaking a similar task." LF, 37
Physical Therapist, Mom of Two
"I am currently the mom of two: ages 5 and 8. I have worked as a Physical
Therapist for 11 years, and will take the MCAT April 2000. I will turn 40 July
2000! I am eager to hear everyone's story(ies) and thoughts about this large
endeavor. I admit that as of late I have been wavering a bit. My husband is
fully supportive, as are my children. But, at times I do wonder if it will be
worth the price I will pay. I worry about all the missed years with my children
and husband, yet at the same time becoming a physician is the one thing that
I feel passionate about. I have begun to research non-traditional avenues of
being a medical student/resident. They are out there!" TG, 39, mother of
two
Stay-at-home Mom, Accepted into School - Terrified!
"I have been accepted to
University for this fall. I have been a
stay at home mom for 4 years now and have suddenly become terrified at the thought
of entering med school. How can I leave my children for so many hours of the
day? What if my husband never finds a job? Am I completely nuts like everyone
tells me. I would love to hear how others do it. Do they regret it etc.?"
MB, 29 , mother of 2
Girls Don't Do Science?
"I am completing post baccalaureate premedical courses through extension,
I have a BS in Social Policy and Sociology and an MS in International Policy.
At school I remember quite clearly being told by a physics teacher that "girls
don't do science", funny thing is his daughter went on to become a doctor!
The real desire to become a doctor came after having my daughter, think it may
have had something to do with the epidural (WOW - amazing thing that was!!)
and my obstetrician (wonderful man). Seriously though, as I look back over time
I realized that there were hints and situations telling me all along that that's
what I should do - now it all seems clear and I am giving it my best shot. I
founded MomMD just to see who was out there... and here you all are! SE, 29,
mother of two
Wants to Have Kids and Medical Career
"I am not a med student yet. And, also not a mother yet! I am a postbac
premed student right now with *several* classes ahead of me. I hope to go fulltime
in a year, and get the rest of the premed classes over with in a couple semesters.
I hope to attend med school in 2002 or 2003 (if I can get in!). I also desperately
want to become a mother -- and b/c of my age and situation, I'd like to have
the baby before med school. (My husband and I are in negotiations on the exact
timing right now ;-) ) Anyway, the hardest part for me is that there are so
many variables... when I get pregnant, when we can afford for me to quit work,
if/when I get into med school, etc., etc. It's also hard to think about how
I'll do it all -- be a good mother, student, and then hopefully, doctor. It
really seems undoable, and at times I wonder what the heck I'm thinking. Luckily,
those closest to me, including my husband, have been very supportive. A lot
of other people tell me to consider becoming a PA or nurse ;-((." RY
Preparing for MCATs
"I too am preparing for the April 2000 MCAT's.....I am a wife, mother,
and cancer survivor(which incidentally was the driving force in my decision
to go to medical school). I have many concerns to as I embark on this journey.
I am extremely close with my husband and daughter and it terrifies me that I
might not be able to maintain that closeness due to the demands of medical school.
However, both of them are very supportive. It is so great to see other people
struggling with many of the same issues....or some with very similar stories."
MS
Military Mother of Two
"I am a 36 yr old mother of two (14 yoa son and 13 yoa daughter) - so basically
my husband and I are insane. What makes it better (just kidding) is that we
are presently living in two different states due to the wonders of the military.
I am a Coast Guard helicopter pilot with 3 1/2 years until retirement. Fortunately
this separation will only be until next summer!!! Anyway I am in the post-bac
program at the U of
which is an evening program. I will be finished with
the program in the spring of 01 and plan to take the MCAT either that August
or April of 02 - still debating. I offer words of encouragement to everyone
in this situation - we all can do it!!! I always tell my kids that is there
is a will there is a way - words I have always lived by - even when others have
said - no you won't get selected for this or that - well I proved them wrong
and intend to continue to do so!!!" L, 36, mother of 2
Book Publisher in Premed Course
"I'm the 35-year-old mother of a 3-year-old son, I work full-time in book
publishing, and I have just started
postbacc premed program. Most of
the people in my program are 25-year-olds without kids who are attending school
full-time, so I'm really searching for a community of like-minded people. I've
been interested in medicine since college, but have always been afraid of what
it would do to my family (even before I had one). It was actually having a child
that finally pushed me over the edge into doing something about my crazy dream
-- partly because my pregnancy and the birth exposed me once again to medicine,
and partly because I realized that it's worse to leave your kid to go to a job
you don't love than it is to leave him for longer hours to go to something you
do love. Maybe I'm just deluding myself about how he'll react to my having such
a demanding career, but I guess I do believe the old adage that a happy mother
makes for a happy child -- and I also believe that the example of working hard
and following one's dream has to be good for a child." L, 35, mother of
one
Taking MCAT for Second Time, mom of Two
"I'm 36, have 2 daughters, 11 & 12, and a supportive husband. The desire
to go into medicine hit me while I was working for a GI group when I was 21.
However, my husband and I were anxious to start our family, so I returned to
college after the kids came. I now have my BA in Biology and am preparing to
take the MCAT (for the second time) in April 2000. I too have struggled with
the concern for how being a med student would affect my family, primarily my
children. I've also had some family members tell me my family will "suffer"
if I choose this path. It is heartbreaking to feel like your dreams for your
own future my hurt those you love most. This is really what prompted my to write
today. My husband said the most wonderful thing to me last night and I hope
it will bring to all of you the same comfort it brought to me. He told me that
he can already see that our girls, as students, have benefited from seeing me
go through college. Watching me study has helped set an example for them and
taught them the value of education. This is true particularly because they are
becoming young women themselves. When we, as women with children, choose to
take on and accomplish a challenge such as ours, it sends a message of strength,
dedication, and perseverance to our children. We're not just telling our kids
to learn as they grow, we're showing them.!!! He reassured me that our kids
are great now and they will be when I get into med school. I'm sorry this e-mail
is so long, but my fears have run deep, and I hear them in many of your words.
My pre-med adviser also keeps telling me, "Your children know who their
mother is, and they always will." It is those like my husband and adviser
who help me sit at this desk without guilt and fear. Ladies...KEEP ON ROCKIN'
ON!!!!" C, 36, mother of 2
38 Year Old Lawyer Wants Kids and Medical Career
"I am 38 years old and I have almost completed my post-bacc premed requirements
... am planning on returning to school in September to finish orgo & bio
(already did gchem, physics & calc ) ... and then mcats.....(probably the
spring) -- with Stanley Kaplan. I don't have any kids yet but am certainly planning
on one or two. When I saw this list I thought it would help reassure me that
I can manage everything. Someone said that med students have more time than
you would think. I practiced law for many years -- and found that this was certainly
true of law students and of myself even at my busiest times of my legal career."
MB, 38
Wanting to Become a Chiropractor
"I am currently attending school with aspirations to become a chiropractor.
While this is not your traditional medicine and I do not have to take the MCAT,
I do have the same amount of schooling and other entrance exams to pass. I just
got out of the Military after serving five years as a medic and decided that
traditional medicine wasn't for me! I have two children 16 months and 3 which
are a handful and an understanding husband who supports us all even though he
is a full time student also. So far so good. Right now I am a junior and I left
all my science classes for last. In fact I just started back to school today
and I'm loving this opportunity." PT "I just turned 40 (and was studying
for my organic final for my birthday!) and started pre-med courses at a satellite
campus of
a year & a half ago. It's been a good experience so far.
I'll finish up organic this semester, do physics (which I loved in high school)
next year, and do an upper biology course next fall. MCATs in April of 2001,
I figure. Everyone's been great about this decision of mine: my husband understands
(and does the laundry, cleaning, reading to the children...), our children (almost
10 and just turned 7 year old boys), and friends. My professors have been mostly
terrific and encouraging....(I've taught continuing ed. courses at another college
for the past 9 years, so I've been on both sides of the podium). Anyhow, I think
it's do-able. I do get concerned about going through med school and residency
as our children become teenagers, but I think they'll do all right. They're
proud of their Mom and we all sit down to do homework together....only mine
lasts a lot longer for some reason ;-) !" MB, 40, mother of 2
27 Year Old Applicant, Mom of One
"My name is M, aged 27, married 5 years to an incredible and supportive
man, mother to a terrific, beautiful baby girl (8 mos). I actually have applied
to med school before and was a pre-med as an undergrad. Many life changes later
(teaching, back in medicine at a nursing home, move to the East Coast from the
Southwest, baby!), we have moved back to our home state so I can attend med
school and be near our families. I am currently taking a few courses to spiff
up my GPA (biochem of disease and Virology) and get more prepared for med school,
and am taking courses in a Master's in Public Heath program that I have just
officially applied for. It is a short degree program and I should be finished
next Spring. I am re-taking the MCAT and am currently taking the Kaplan course
(can I just mention that I really, intensely DISLIKE organic!!!!!!). I am also
just starting to work on a community diabetes project. I am VERY blessed in
that I don't have to have a job this semester, though taking care of our child
requires more time and energy, I sometimes think. I am learning to compartmentalize--concentrate
fully on school when I'm there, and fully on wife and mom when I'm home, before
everyone goes to sleep." MC, 27, mother of one