I have complained and bitched and griped because medical school leaves NO time for almost anything this has been repeated ad nauseum on this site. You *know* what it is like for someone to go through this process…the other partner is going to have to do most of the work period. I do not see this being a problem when husbands have to work a ton for many many years…yet if we do it for what four years (and of course residency for sure) or more then we are letting our family down or whatnot? what the hell? Also my comment about the short end of the stick had nothing to do with the main caretaker being mom or dad but more with a frustrated parent (of either gender). Ya know if anyone has done some major complaining and griping and “drama” it has been you if not look at some of your old posts.