Hi, I am in the interview process right now and am married to a 2nd year medical student. I have worked very hard to get to this point and know that I want to be a doctor. However, many physicians I have worked with have raised concerns about having a dual-doctor marriage. I do not want to mitigate family or marriage in order to get the MD behind my name. Is this possible? Does anyone have any suggestions or comments from experience about a dual-doctor marriage? Thanks so much!
Hi. I am a general internist married to an infectious disease specialist. I work half time (2 and 1/2 days) in academics, teaching residents. My husband is an academic clinician, teaching residents, doing clinical research, and taking care of patients. We have 2 boys, 2 and 4. We met in med school and went through all our training together. Kids came soon after residency. While I can’t say it’s been easy, I can assure you that I have a wonderfully rich and happy life, and that it IS possible. We have chosen our sacrifices (less money but more time than being in private practice). Our process of juggling is an ongoing one but really worthwhile. If I could do it over, I might do dermatology or a similar field instead because it’s easier to work part time, but I think that it’s possible to find a creative job situation in ANY specialty. If you love medicine, it’s a great career. Good luck to you!
One more thing-
It’s pretty neat to have a spouse who really understands the stresses of residency and medicine. You don’t need to say a word about how hard your call was when you come home exhausted. And it’s nice to have someone to run cases by. These things you do not get with a non-medicine spouse, no matter how supportive.