I hear you, and I understand. Residency *is* time-consuming…moreso than most “normal” jobs. And with a pre-teen (at that time) she may feel a bit neglected. BUT, perhaps you can still get ready, apply for, and even complete medschool…these are definately doable. You can always delay residency…until she’s older. Or maybe you can find a cushie residency…in a “cushie” field…
That way, you’re progressing…and once your child(ren) are old(er) you’ll be halfway there…